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Death

'Normally we do not like to think about death. We would rather think about life. Why reflect on death? When you start preparing for death you soon realize that you must look into your life now… and come to face the truth of your self. Death is like a mirror in which the true meaning of life is reflected.' Sogyal Rinpoche


Griefwalker - is a beautiful, beautiful film about death and dying - Griefwalker is a National Film Board of Canada feature documentary film, directed by Tim Wilson. It is a lyrical, poetic portrait of Stephen Jenkinson’s work with dying people. Filmed over a twelve year period, Griefwalker shows Jenkinson in teaching sessions with doctors and nurses, in counselling sessions with dying people and their families, and in meditative and often frank exchanges with the film’s director while paddling a birch bark canoe about the origins and consequences of his ideas for how we live and die. http://orphanwisdom.com/griefwalker/


A beautiful sentiment - ‘Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before. How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again’ - Canon Henry Scott Holland (1847 – 1918) in his book: ‘Death is Nothing at All.’ The message of comfort contained in this little book is an inspired statement of hope and belief. Millions of bereaved people over the years have drawn from it serenity, acceptance, and the ability to face life after the death of a loved one, and for those wishing to convey sympathy but unable to find the right words, it says it all.


'On Death and Dying’ by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross MD. Other critically admired works include 'Living with Death and Dying' (1981) and 'On Life After Death' (1991) which are among more than 20 books that Kübler-Ross wrote or co-authored on subjects related to death and grieving, and caring for those affected by bereavement. Dr Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, 1926-2004, was a psychiatrist, humanitarian, teacher, author, and pioneer of bereavement and hospice care.


‘Who Dies? – An Investigation of Conscious Living and Conscious Dying.’ by Stephen Levine. Stephen is a poet and teacher of meditation who worked with Ram Dass and Elisabeth Kübler-Ross.


‘Evidence of the Afterlife – the Science of Near-Death Experiences’ by Jeffrey Long MD and Paul Perry. The largest NDE study ever reveals proof of life after death.


‘The Wisdom of Near-Death Experiences – How Understanding NDEs can help us to live more fully’, by Dr Penny Sartori. Challenging our preconceptions about the effects that near-death experiences (NDEs) have on the living, Dr Penny Sartori draws on her extensive doctoral research and her years of experience as an intensive care nurse to open our eyes to the lessons that we can learn from NDEs.


SOBS – Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide - National Helpline 0300 111 5065. 9am to 9pm every day. Each year in the UK, more than 6000 people take their own life – each suicide has a devastating and lasting impact on their families, friends and communities.Faced with a sudden, often unexpected and sometimes violent death, the bereaved experience a complex grief which typically includes strong feelings of guilt, self-reproach and questioning – “why?”. Discomfort, shame and stigma associated with suicide can make it difficult to talk about. There may be further complexities not common to normal bereavements e.g. inquests, media coverage, trauma reactions and difficult family relationships. Those bereaved by suicide often feel isolated at a time when they are hurting, suffering mental anguish and are vulnerable themselves to thoughts of suicide. Even those fortunate enough to have strong support networks can still feel alone, unable to share their true feelings for fear of their impact on others, particularly when they are also in a caring role for others who are bereaved. There are hundreds of thousands of people in the UK who have been deeply affected by suicide. The emotional, quality of life and financial impacts are long lasting and wide reaching. It is a major public health issue. SOBS exist to meet the needs and break the isolation experienced by those bereaved by suicide. SOBS are a self-help organisation and aims to provide a safe, confidential environment in which bereaved people can share their experiences and feelings, so giving and gaining support from each other. SOBS also strive to improve public awareness and maintain contacts with many other statutory and voluntary organisations. http://uk-sobs.org.uk/about/why-we-exist/