My partner died just over 8 years ago, and I am still suffering intense grief. During the months following his death I felt him very close, and experienced a number of what I considered were after death communications. All this continued until one night I had lucid dream when he told me that he was "moving on with a friend". The dream was so vivid I can still see him, and in the distant background I could see a house and a woman (who I did not recognise), with blonde hair. I begged him not to go, but he just gently smiled at me before the dream ended. After that dream, the signs I received from my partner were no more.

since then, I have frequent unhappy dreams where when I am with my deceased partner he intimated that he is in a new relationship, and I feel that he does not want me any more. When I wake up I feel very upset, and this lingers for most of the day. Last night however, I experienced the most disturbing dream. In it, I visited my partner who I discovered was living in a palatial home. At first he mentions that he had befriended a woman, but when I visited him, it was revealed that she was living there with him. His entire personality had changed in the dream, as I found him to be conceited and unfriendly. I beefed him to not abandon me and to remember what we once had, and all the years we had spent together, but he cruelly ignored my pleas. I also saw the woman he was with, and she seemed to gloat at my pain. I woke up feeling heartbroken.

Please can someone give some explanation for these dreams. Do I visit the spirit world then, and are these messages really from my deceased partner informing me that he is in a new relationship? I am fearing any further traumatic dreams like this, as they are adding hurt and confusion to the grief I am suffering, and the already painful loss of my partner. Thank you so much if you can provide advice.